Child Support !

                                         Child Support!

Well this is a pretty touchy subject here but I must dive into it. My father had 18 children and he never have heard of child support. His definition of child support was feeding. clothing and keeping a roof over our heads. I am baffled as to why the US Courts have to make a dad take care of his child/children. What in the world has happened to our culture.

A father would rather quit his job, lose his home, go hungry rather than to just support the children he brought into the world. Can someone explain this to Mother Allen? I never did hear my father complain because he had children to take care of. He loved us conditionally. Dad didn't have a lot of money, in fact we were poor but just didn't know it. He was a farmer or in a better term, a share-cropper. He never owned any land of his own. But he never ever left us to fend for ourselves. 

Fathers and I must say some mothers, just don't want to care for their children. You know Jesus told the disciples in Matthews 19:14 "Let the little children come to Me, and  do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven". He also said "the least you do unto these my little ones, you have done it unto me".

 I had the opportunity to sit in a Child Support Court to listen to the cases and when I tell you I was so saddened to hear of the poor reasons why the fathers did not take care of their children even after been told by the courts they had to. Consequently some of these fathers were ordered to be incarcerated immediately. My Bishop of Greater Mt Calvary Holy Church has a profound slogan which is "Can't We Just All Get Along"? Ask God to remove the disdain you may have for your child's mom or dad and move on.

Well, this is all I'm going to say for now. But please get it together, our children are precious in God's sight and He will charge you for not caring for them. 

Mother Allen 

"Why A Son Needs A Dad"? Part II

      Why A Son Needs A Dad

Let us continue what Gregory E. Lang has said. More reasons why a son needs a dad is to:

• make the family whole.
• help him face his challenges with confidence.
• show him how to control his temper.
• tell him there is no disgrace in losing.
• show him how to compromise.
• tell him that all is not hopeless, even when it may seem that it is.
• nurture his independence.
• teach him that respect must be earned.
• so he will have at least one hero he can depend on.
• to share with him the wisdom he has not yet acquired.
• show him how to love others, even when it is hard.
• to prepare him for being responsible for his own family.
• teach him to treat women with kindness.
• teach him that men and women are equal.
• to provide the guidance that will steer him from trouble.
• help him understand it isn't necessary to be like everyone else.
• teach him when to lead and when to follow.
• to discipline him firmly and fairly, while loving him relentlessly.
• to teach him to avoid selfish temptations.
• to show him unconditional love.

Well my friends, I think this is enough to digest today. Please share this with other dads who perhaps need a little more wisdom with what to do and say to their sons. This is real!

Mother Allen

"Why A Son Needs A Dad"

This is such an interesting book written by Gregory E. Lang. I am ever disappointed when I see dads who seem to think their boys don't need them. Are you really serious? Boys are forever looking at and following the examples of their fathers. 

I am ever so moved when I see a father carrying their son with pride and dignity or walking with their son holding their little hands with so much love. So consequently, these little boys grow up with the same mind and love toward their children. I want to share with you some reasons Gregory E. Lang gives us for why a son needs a dad.

 A Son Needs A Dad-

• to teach him to be gracious winner as well as a gracious loser.
• to show him how to be productive with his hands.
• to teach him how to talk with girls.
• to teach him to apologize for reckless words.
• to pull him back when he is headed in the wrong direction.
• to listen when others have grown tired of listening.
• to tell him that he is proud of him.
• to tech him to always give a good days work.
• to encourage him when he meets with disappointment.
• to teach him that it is wise to seek advice.
• to help him learn from his mistakes.

Now this is all I am giving you right now fellows. I want you to digest all of this for a while and think about it. This is real !!!!!

Blessings,

Mother Allen

Do Good!

Do all the good you can,

In all the ways you can,

In all the places you can,

At all times you can,

To all people you can,

As long as you ever can. 

                             John Wesley

Essentially, this is how the Lord want us to be. Don't waist your time on things that don't matter. Seek to do good and I promise you before you can turn around, goodness will be returned back to you. Someone once said "There is no better exercise for the heart than reaching down and lifting someone else up. Lets step outside of ourselves and just do good without looking for a return. Be Bless,

Mother Allen

Who Is In Charge?

June 9, 2015

I have been a teacher for nearly 30 years and I am still amazed at how much the children are in charge. Parents really think they have it going on but really, I have seen it all. I love children so much that I want them to do the right thing. Parents you must be a good example if you want your child/ children to do the right thing. Children learn what they live, haven't you heard that? They are watching every move you make, every step you take and every word that flows through your lips. 

It is interesting to see parents who live not such a good life before their children but expect them to be angels. Hmm, remember children learn what they live. So consequently, when parents haven't done what they should have with their children guilt comes in and now comes all of the unnecessary buying and shopping just to make them (parents) feel better. 

Stay tuned, more to come!!!!

Mother Allen